Psychotherapy for Adults
There are times when something in life needs our attention.
You may be struggling with anxiety, loss or a relationship. You may keep finding yourself in the same patterns, even though you understand them and want things to be different.
Or there may be nothing clearly wrong. Life may look fine from the outside, yet no longer feel quite right from within.
You do not need to wait for a crisis to come to therapy. Wanting to understand yourself better is reason enough.
A place to think
Life can leave little time to notice what is going on inside us. There is work to do, people who need us and problems to solve. We become very good at carrying on. Therapy gives you time each week that is yours.You can bring whatever is on your mind: something that happened yesterday, a relationship that has troubled you for years, a choice you cannot make, or a feeling you cannot quite put into words.You do not need to prepare or know where to begin. We start with what is there.When the same patterns keep returning
You may find yourself choosing the same kind of partner, finding it hard to say no, pulling away when someone gets close, seeking other people's approval or asking more of yourself than you would ever ask of someone else.
These patterns often began for good reasons. They may once have helped you cope, belong or protect yourself.
But we can keep living by old rules long after they stop helping us.
Therapy gives us a chance to notice those rules, understand where they came from and ask whether you still want to live by them.
When you have lost touch with what you want
Sometimes we become so good at knowing what other people need that we lose sight of ourselves. You may know what your partner wants, what your children need, what your work expects and what other people think you should do.
But what do you want?
This question often becomes louder during times of change. A relationship ends. Children grow up. Work loses its meaning. You reach a new stage of life and begin to look at things differently.
Therapy gives you time to listen to yourself without rushing towards an answer.
Understanding the past, living in the present
Our past shapes us, but it does not have to decide what comes next.
Earlier experiences can affect how we see ourselves, what we expect from relationships, how easily we trust and what we believe we need to do to be loved or accepted.
Therapy is not about blaming the past. It is about seeing how it may still be living in the present.
When we understand this more clearly, we have more choice about what we carry forward.
Beginning therapy
I offer both short-term and open-ended therapy, in person and online.
You do not need to know which kind of therapy you need before contacting me. Our first meeting gives us time to talk about what has brought you here, what you would like help with and whether working together feels right.
You can come with questions.
You can also come without knowing quite what the question is yet.